What Is The Psychology Behind Compatibility And Does Opposites Attract Each Other?

According To Research Studies

Dr. Afshara
3 min readJan 25, 2025
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There is a common notion that opposites attract each other in romantic relationships. Yet, research studies show that this idea might not be factual but a myth. Additionally, previous studies stated that people tend to be drawn to and develop long-term relationships with those with similar characteristics, values, and surroundings.

This is why likeness can be crucial when it comes to attraction. For instance, as per studies if two people in a relationship have the same mindsets, beliefs, and character attributes, it can create a higher level of attraction on a social and mutual level. This implies that shared traits give assurance and create mutual understanding, which develops a healthy foundation for a relationship. Apart from these, a study underlined that although the idea that opposites attract each other is popular, in reality, people are most likely to look for partners who are more similar to themselves in different factors.

Although likeness is an important aspect of attraction, some mutual distinctions can actually improve the relationship dynamic. For instance, if a dominant person is partnered with a compliant person, then it can make their relationship balanced as they each complete distinctive roles. Moreover, this symbioticness can improve satisfaction and mutually benefit each other. Nevertheless, it should be noted that this kind of symbiotic partnership works well only when the individuals’ long-term plans and core values coincide with each other.

Aside from these, similar beliefs and mindsets can ensure a long-lasting relationship. Besides, when couples have similar long-term goals, mindsets, and family values, they tend to have long-term happiness and fulfilment. On the contrary, if couples have disparities in these areas, it can cause friction and misunderstandings between them, which eventually can disrupt the peace of the relationship. Even though some differences can spice up their relationship, couples must have similar values and mindsets to sustain a long-term relationship.

Final Takeaways
Although the concept of opposites attracting each other is fascinating when it comes to compatibility between couples, scientific studies say otherwise. Most importantly, the studies specified that if couples have similar values, characteristics, and surroundings, then it can significantly impact the longevity of the relationship. Nevertheless, some symbiotic differences can improve the dynamics between the couples, especially if they conform to their shared basic values.

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Dr. Afshara
Dr. Afshara

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