How To Identify A Narcissistic Attack And Win

It has nothing to do with you

2 min readSep 1, 2022


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If you ever feel attacked by a narcissist then you must know that their behavior is only exposing their insecurities and flaws. It has nothing to do with you. By attacking you they are showing that you have something that they are insecure about.

The narcissists are deeply insecure about themselves. This is why they are always scared to lose whatever they have. If you have any quality that the narcissist lack he/she will try his/her best to make you feel inferior about it.

For instance, if you are an intellectual person they will make you feel you are the stupid one. They do this kind of behavior to feel good about themselves. So, you have to remember any attack by the narcissist is not an attack on you, it is merely a portrayal of their insecurities.

Even, you can identify their subtle attacks through some behavior and the way they are attacking you for example,

  • Are they criticizing your physical appearance?

Meaning: Their physical appearance is important to them, and they are insecure about it.

  • Are they deintegrating your social status?

Meaning: They think their status is low and they are not happy with their status.

Whenever they feel insecure about what they have, they usually target and criticize those around them. It helps them to feel less insecure about themselves.

So, how can you win?

  • Firstly, don’t care about their attacks because a self-confident person will never waste his/her time criticizing the other person. So, if a narcissist is attacking it comes from his/her insecurity issues.
  • Secondly, don’t waste your time attacking them back. Rather focus on your life purpose and work on yourself.

Even if you attack them, it will fuel the narcissist’s rage and might make you feel better temporarily. However, in the long run, you should not waste your time and energy attacking a narcissist. Rather, focus on distancing yourself.

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